And you're also allowed to choose who you DO interact with, and don't have to justify those decisions to anyone, as long as they're fully-informed and fully consensual on all parties' behalf.
And misgendering is fucking awful -- yes even misgendering someone "with clout".
And I believe people who have come forward to name people with influence of abuse of that influence.
And this is all multifaceted and a manifold problem.
I swear to fucking fuck I see this whole pattern happen over and over again, and I'm sick of second guessing that pattern recognition.
Defend your boundaries -- they are your boundaries. You are allowed to not like or not interact with people who make you feel like you HAVE TO. You're allowed to block and mute whoever you're uncomfortable with, no matter how much clout they have. And if the power dynamic is such that you get the sense you CAN'T, then that's a red flag itself.
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people have made me hella uncomfortable on here, and have always done it with a veneer of caring about what i want. and i've always been a total dope and gone along with it, worried about hurting their feelings if i told them to stop. basically what im saying is that we all need to be more mindful of how we interact, and how this can affect people.
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